The Expelled Fathers
For German-speaking people:
Bild am Sonntag, the weekend edition of the largest daily national paper in Germany, provided excellent coverage of the issues addressed by the hunger strikers in Berlin, 16.06.2002 : Die verstoßenen Väter ("The expelled fathers"; translated excerpts from that article are shown farther down)
For English-speaking people:
It is too bad that there is not enough time to translate the whole article, but it is too long (translated
excerpts farther down). It provides excellent, objective, factual and very supportive coverage of the issues.
It is an amazing article. Unlike comparable coverage of such issues in the press in the English-speaking
parts of the world, the article is almost totally free of any bias against- and vilification of fathers.
Alone in the year 2000, according to the Federal Bureau of Statistics,
194,000 marriages ended in front of the divorce
judge. Affected: 148,000 children. "Only a third of the divorced reach a peaceful agreement," says Detlef
Naumann (41) of the association Väteraufbruch für Kinder. The remainder fights on, often for years mostly over
support- and access-right issues, also in connection with illegitimate children. "A fight that is won by the
mothers in almost 90 percent of the cases," says Naumann. What remains for the man is most often nothing more than
to be a father on an hourly basis. They often don't see their children for months, sometimes not for years.
"One can reproach me only because of one thing: that I love my children too much," says actor Mathieu Carrière ("Das Mädchen Rosemarie" "The Girl Rosemarie")....For 3 ½ years Mathieu Carrière (51) raised his little daughter Elena (5); together with her mother until the woman left him.
Sally (10) and Gina (12) live in a different continent
"I no longer believe in law and justice." Engelbert P. (46) from a small town in Baden-Württemberg is no criminal - he is a father, a father who doesn't know when he will see his daughters again, because Gina and Sally are on the other side of the globe in Australia.....
For 12 weeks he has neither seen nor heard his children
"Papa was the first word my daughter Mona could say," remembers Ingo A. (39), a lawyer from the Ruhr Valley. "Papa" - that [word] he has not heard anymore since March 31, 18:00 hrs from his daughter (8). He has been fighting for 2 ½ years that his wife (still) (35) permits only one thing: "She shall simply let me see my child every second weekend!"....
Almost ruined through false accusations
The fight over his children almost cost him his existence. "Can you imagine what it means for a policeman to be accused by his own wife to have sexually abused of his stepdaughter?" asks Manfred H. (34). Suspended for eight months from his job, nine endless days in court Manfred H. was exonerated February 2002. His own children, Manfred (15) and Katharina (11) testified against their half-sister (17) , whom the mother had brought along into their marriage....
They only live 200 meters apart but saw each other only six times
Since December last year, Jörg H. (31) from North Germany is the proud father of a son: Lukas. The last time he saw the baby was eight weeks ago even though they live only 200 meters apart. The only thing that remains with the nature preservation officer, who already has two children from a prior relationship, is only the small photograph. One month after they learned that he and his former girlfriend would become parents, she brought an end to their relationship, broke off all contact, almost completely. Jörg H. heard of the birth only because acquaintances congratulated him....
Custody right, access right, support paragraphs regulate destinies
...Ute Balten (51), vice-president of the Hanseatic Bar Association Hamburg, and family lawyer, explains: "After a divorce, both parents retain the common custody rights, the right and the duty to care for the child." The right to determine the residence the right to decide where the child may reside is often granted only to one of the parents, so that there isn't constant fighting. Unmarried fathers have the biggest problems: "The mother automatically has the sole custody right," says Ute Balten. The man will obtain joint custody only if the mother agrees. "If she does not no chance." To the father is only left a visitation right, to be able to see his child on a regular basis and spend time with him: "One weekend every 14 days, every second holiday, and half of the school vacation time." Nevertheless, the father must always pay child support for children under eighteen. The amount depends on the age of the child and the income of the payer, and is determined individually. "When the child is of the age of majority, both parents pay proportionally when studying or education is involved, in isolated cases even beyond the 27th year of age."
One out of three fathers simply pays nothing
Many fathers do not obtain their rights, but many, too, neglect their duties: one out of three pays no support after separation. "2.4 million children in Germany live only with one parent, mostly with the mother," says Peggi Liebisch (39), business administrator of the Association of lone Mother and Fathers from Bonn. "We estimate that about 800,000 fathers pay no support." The main reason: "When fathers no longer live in the family, they often lose the relationship to the costs and believe the women would make themselves a good life with the money. However, that a family without support often slides into welfare dependency is often eagerly forgotten." [My note: It is too bad that the author of the article did not do a little more work on that aspect of the story, to obtain related information from other, perhaps independent or even objective sources. However, the article provides the names and Internet addresses of five organizations who provide help to fathers after separation and divorce. WHS]
The article contains a reference to a study of divorced fathers, done by Prof. Gerhard Amendt (62) of the University of Bremen. The following is a translation of the abstracts of three newsletters announcing some of the findings of the study.
First results of the research project http://www.vaeterstudie.de show that in the separation and divorce phase episodes of interpersonal violence are common.
(My note: I wonder whether they then yelled: "How come you are running so fast?" WHS)
After separation or divorce many men find themselves in a far-reaching life-crisis. That is indicated by the results of the father study in relation to professional and health situations of the men studied
To manage the separation- or divorce crisis, fathers avail themselves surprisingly often of professional assistance. However, additional results of the father study show that not all forms of help are capable to adequately address the special requirements of fathers - Here it is where fathers organizations gain in importance. [At this point the sample size had reached 2,100.]
The newsletters can be accessed at the URL shown just above in the abstract of the first newsletter. The sample size is now 3,600 and it appears that no further additions will be made to the sample. The full study report is to be published in 2003.
It is too bad that we don't all speak the same language. Unfortunately, I can't find the time to make a full translation of the newsletters not even the time to polish the translation I made here. What just a little bit of funding could do for the identification of what is happening to fathers. Alas, our elected leaders largely appear to feel that fathers are not worth spending a dime on.
As Patrick Fagan and Robert Rector identified in one of their reports published by the Heritage Foundation:
People, please, don't wait too long to do something to salvage what can be salvaged of our society and of civilization. There is not much time before the damage done by half a century of Marxist social engineering brought about by modern feminism will be irreversible and we all will go down along with Russia.
Posted June 2002