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Should you give to United Way if you are a man or respect men?

The answer is No!

There are good reasons why nobody should give to United Way.  The most prominent one is that it is an organization that promotes misandry.   For example:

The United Way's Education Wife Assault (EWA)

EWA spells out in detail how the (in)justice system works in this respect. (For a baker's dozen of URLs for similar web sites, refer to the links page of "Family" Transition Place)
    When you read their questionnaires addressed to women and men separately: women the victims, men the abusers, you will find that their definition of abuse encompasses all human interaction, provided it is reported by women; men are not given a chance to reply in similar manner. Likewise, the questions about perpetrators are not addressed to women. [Full Story]

Another reason is that you have little control over what the United Way is doing with your money.  Bill O'Reilly of the TV Show O'Reilly Factor, reports in a Nov. 17, 2001 column that the US United Way still has found no way to give the families of the victims of the 9-11 terrorist attack the money it has collected for them.

...after six weeks of controversy, the Red Cross will donate all of the $543 million generous Americans gave it for "The Liberty Fund" to the 9-11 families. Previously, the Red Cross was only going to give approximately 25 percent of the donations to the families ... keeping the rest for general Red Cross programs. ...

...As part of my continuing investigation into the charity chaos, I have zeroed in on "The September 11th Fund" run by the United Way and a New York bank. That's the fund that received all the money from the TV telethon and the big New York concert. We're talking $337 million here. And there is no question that the United Way is having trouble getting those funds directly to the grieving families. The reason is because they contract out to local charities to actually hand the money to the families. And some of those charities are inefficient, to say the least. The entire situation is one big mess.

—Bill O'Reilly, The sign of the cross
Townhall.com, 2001 11 17

Things may be far worse than a big mess.  Consider that, as David Limbaugh reports in a November 21 article, For the victims?, that the moneys collected are flowing with extreme ease to extremist organizations.

In another case that came to light through the efforts of the Toronto Star, it was nothing but sheer greed that motivated the National Society for Abused Women and Children to collect a million dollars in the course of a single year but to hand over no more than only $1,365 of the money collected to charitable works.  "The ability and swiftness by which the main principals (of the Society), or indeed anyone acting within the system, can extract from trusting citizens a large amount of money is rather stunning," Loukidelis, the judge that stripped the society of its charitable status, stated in a Jan. 28, 2002 ruling.

A Feb. 6, 2002 Toronto Star article states: "The National Society for Abused Women and Children was first granted a charitable number from Canada Customs and Revenue in 1999.  Its application consisted of a brochure, an outdated list of shelters to which it planned to contribute, and a promise to donate at least half of funds raised to shelter work. With 70,000 charities in Canada, the federal agency does little checking."

UPDATE Nov. 12, 2002

The Toronto Star reports:

Billions lost in charity scandal

One in six spends a lot, gives a little


More than 12,000 Canadian charities — almost one in six — spend more money on fundraising and administration than they do on charitable work, a Star investigation reveals.
   Some are well-meaning but inefficient, while others run blatant scams preying on the public with aggressive, often abusive, fundraising tactics.
   These troubled charities, all federally registered, spent a total of $10.5 billion of donor money on fundraising and administration in 1999 but contributed just $1.9 billion to charitable works. That's 15 cents on the dollar. (Full Story)

The article identifies that since 1999, the number of Canadian charities has grown:

Today [Nov. 2002], there are 79,000 charities in Canada, with about 1,000 new ones registered by federal authorities each year. On average, the approval time is just one month. In 1999, the most recent year for which electronic data are available, Ottawa's charity database held 73,000 organizations.

There was to be a follow-up story Nov. 13, 2002, "Bad boys of charity".

If you want the promotion of rampant misandry and social destruction to end, dry up the funding.  Hit the misandrists where it hurts them the most, in their cash boxes.   If nothing else, thereby you'll keep control over where your hard-earned money goes.  Don't be suckered into having your money ripped off.

Hundreds of millions of dollars are given each year from Canadian tax revenues to women's organizations and to "battered" women's shelters – alone to women's shelter programs from provincial revenues about $100 million (that doesn't include moneys from the federal government, from United Way and from other private sources).  Yet, domestic violence is not a very pressing problem in Canada.

Over-all, rates of violence are falling, and violence against women in particular more so than other violence categories, although violence by women is on the rise. .  There are about two incidents of violence against men for every one of violence against women.  According to Statistics Canada pub. “Family Violence in Canada: A Statistical Profile 2000 (Cat. no. 85-224; see Eeva Sodhi's comments), a little more than half of all inter-partner violence is initiated by women.

Most of what is called domestic violence is actually not truly domestic violence.  It should more accurately be called extramarital violence or "EV", because of all social institutions and life-styles, marriages are the safest for women (and men and children) to be in.

Although there are roughly 450 "battered" women's shelters in Canada, not a single battered men's shelter is in operation.  The only "shelters" where men can truly find refuge from violent women are Canadian jails and prisons.  However, there is no place where men can find refuge from violent women for themselves and for their children.

Much of the money collected by United Way goes toward funding the ideological and political goals of radical extremist women's organizations.  Don't those receive enough already through the taxes you pay?  Why would anyone want to give them more?

Funding for violence prevention runs to millions of dollars per domestic violence fatality, given that presently there are about 70 DV-related fatalities in Canada each year (men and children included).  Excepting perhaps the scares relating to nonexistent anthrax victims (there are none in Canada), no other category of cause of death receives even close to that level of funding.  And you are to give more yet?

Certainly, many employers put their employees under pressure to donate to United Way.   After all, the company United-Way-Campaign managers must preserve their and their companies' public image.  However, pressure like that is surely nothing other than coercion, and for what good reason?  If you must give in to that pressure, why not just give a dime a week, as suggested by Trudy Schuett, the publisher of  The Desert Light Journal?   It'll keep the paperwork in your company going, and your company's United-Way-Campaign manager can save his face by showing that a large percentage of his company's employees pledged donations. However, limiting your donation to what is essential to keep your managers happy will also limit or even eliminate charity-sponsored misandry.

Many people are aware of the US Combined Federal Campaign, in which United Way takes donations from American federal employees as an automatic paycheck deduction. Some of the organizations funded by United Way are sexist, anti-male orgs, and as such I personally do my best to discourage anyone from participating. In many cases there is an option to earmark your donation to a specific org, so if anyone feels serious pressure from superiors to donate, there are orgs which don't discriminate, but you'll need to do your homework. You may donate as little as a dime a week, if you need to keep peace in your workplace. This is often done. I once worked for United Way in my community, so I know what I'm talking about.

I do, however, encourage orgs to apply to United Way for funding. Their Allocations Panel changes every year, and is comprised of volunteers from the community at large. We might see some changes this year! (Yes, you too may volunteer to serve on the Allocations Panel in your area. Phone your local United Way for info.) [However, don't get your hopes too high.  There are ways to neutralize your efforts, as for example in the futile attempts to gain democratic influence on Children's Aid Societies in Ontario. —WHS]

You'd think the military would be the most supportive of United Way, but in truth we're finding (at least with the Marine Corps and Army here in Yuma) they frankly don't give a flaming flamingo whether you donate or not. My husband works at a Marine Corps installation and is finding many 'deadbolted dads' left with no other option than to live on base. Paul suggests to the Marines, that if they feel they must donate to a charity, find one that is man-friendly. Here in AZ, that is the AZ Fathers. They do excellent work in supporting and teaching non-custodial parents to deal with the divorce/custody game, and have many mothers and grandmothers among their membership.

I'd like to establish a list of man-friendly organizations worldwide in need of cash or other donations. This is a good time to do this, as so many people are now disgusted and unhappy with the big charities and would like to give their money locally where they know it will be used for the intended purpose. [e. g.: Bill O'Reilly's article] Your org does not need to have 501(c)3 status, or whatever is comparable in other countries outside the US. Many helping orgs have worked for years without this. The AZ Fathers is one such org, in business since the '70s.

If you've got an org that is non-profit, and helps men in some way I want to hear from you! Please be specific as to your needs. Sometimes it's easier to get what are called "in-kind donations," which are gifts of things, such as computers, office equipment, etc. You also may be able to find a volunteer that is knowledgeable in something you need doing, such as counseling, computer tech support, or even roof repair. (There are a zillion retired men with great skills out there looking for something to do.)

Again--I must repeat--you do not need to have official charity status in your country to be put on the list. All I need from you is assurance that your group works for men, or has specific intentions to do so. "Seed money" requests are acceptable, so long as I can see how you expect to implement your plan. With that in mind, knowing there may be potential donors out there, I have two Canadian start-ups I'm aware of who need monetary help:

Send me your notice, guys--every little bit helps!

Trudy W. Schuett
Publisher, The DesertLight Journal

"A woman needs a man like a fish needs the river."

There are worthwhile causes that need your support, but United Way is not one of them.

If you are not convinced yet, how does it make you feel that the millions of dollars collected by the United-Way-sponsored 9-11 charity relief-fund are being distributed to the families of the victims of the 9-11 attacks at the speed of molasses in winter, however, that hundreds of thousands of dollars are moving with lightning speed to organizations that can at best be called nothing other than radical, extremist left-wing organizations?  Check David Limbaugh's article For the victims?


See also:

Neo Nazis and other overt hate groups are amateurs. THE HATE MONGERS explains how some elements of the women's movement use lies and hate to make big money for themselves, and how they harm our culture and our economy.


Posted 2001 11 17
2002 02 17 (added comments and link relating to a million-dollar DV funding fraud)
2002 11 12 (added information about Toronto Star article "Billions lost in charity scandal", and reference to CAS Dufferin, Ontario)
2006 03 04 (added link to Feminism for Male College Students)