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Feminists call their grand theory the "gender perspective." "Gender" is a code word in the feminist lexicon.  The enormous importance the radicals place on that term became apparent during the preparation for and conduct of the United Nations' Fourth World Conference on Women in Beijing in September, 1995....The Beijing conference revealed the political and cultural agenda of the movement as a whole....

At a preparatory session in New York, Bella Abzug, the head of a major NGO, denounced "retrogressive" developments:

The current attempt by several Member States to expunge the word "gender" from the Platform for Action and to replace it with the word "sex" is an insulting and demeaning attempt to reverse the gains made by women, to intimidate us and to block further progress....

...In feminist jargon, "sex" is merely biological while "gender" refers to roles and is claimed to be "socially constructed," which means that everything about men and women, other than their reproductive organs, can be altered by changes in the social and cultural environment....

Robert H. Bork, in
Slouching Towards Gomorrah
Modern Liberalism and American Decline

Someone once said something to the extent that we should be careful about what words we use, because the words we speak become our thoughts and those of others, and our thoughts become our actions.  

Indoctrination to that end was used by all totalitarian regimes throughout history to indoctrinate whole peoples.  The same process is employed by gender activists in the implementation of the international agenda for the planned destruction of the family.

For decades, indeed for more than the last hundred years, gender activists invented new words and terms, and ever new definitions, meanings and applications of existing terms and definitions with the aim to make us accept changes in our language to reflect and accelerate the progress in the deliberate re-engineering of society and even of all of mankind.

Civilization existed and evolved for about 10,000 years, and languages evolved with it to reflect the evolution of civilization. However, during especially the past 30 years there has been an unprecedented, massive, global effort to change languages so as to make the unthinkable acceptable, the criminal legal, and formerly worthwhile moral standards and goals deemed antiquated, archaic and even despicable.

Languages have become a primary tool to bring about social change.   Rather than to reflect social change, language is now used to initiate and to force it.   It is used to normalize the traditional nuclear family – the first teacher of children and the most constructive and efficient method for the transmission of moral and cultural values from one generation to the next – down to the level of what had throughout history been largely shunned and slowly weeded out, sexual aberrations, because they did nothing to promote the continuation of the human species and were generally thought to be counter-productive to the progress of civilization.

We have become so inundated with the manipulations of and changes to our languages that even pro-family advocates often fall victim to the manipulation of our our languages by social engineers and gender activists.  It is hoped that the glossary contained in this document will aid people who write and debate in behalf of the traditional nuclear family to think carefully and decide whether certain words and turns of speech they use reflect what they really have in mind, and reflect it clearly enough that the intended meaning is their own and not that of the gender activists.

Before you use the glossary, have a quick look at what Dale O'Leary, journalist and pro-family advocate, cautions people about with respect to choosing our words.  It's a short article that clears up some misperceptions and pitfalls when using the English language in connection with the politics of sex.  I'm sure that the pitfalls she lists will surprise a good number of people, maybe even you.



abortionThe termination of the life of a child conceived but not yet born, and the removal of the carcass of the killed child from its mother's uterus
bisexualPossessing characteristics of both sexes : hermaphroditic; sexually oriented toward both sexes or of relating to performing sexual acts with a person of either sex – with no preference for either sex – for purposes of sexual gratification; a bisexual individual
bisexualismAn ideology that holds that bisexuality is a permissible and desirable portion of a wide range of different types and equally valid expressions of human sexuality; a belief system that advances special rights for bisexuals 
bisexualistSomeone who promotes or advocates bisexualism
bisexualitySexual attraction directed toward persons of both sexes; predilection to perform erotic acts or obtain sexual gratification with persons of both sexes
coprophiliaMarked interest in excrement; esp : the use of feces or filth for sexual excitement
cross-genderedBeing inclined to adopt or exhibit behavioural characteristics of the opposite sex and to lack clear identification with one's own sex
estopTo impede by estoppel
estoppelA legal bar to alleging or denying a fact because of one's own previous actions or words to the contrary
   Although the legal industry uses the term estoppel in a large variety of circumstances to rationalize all sort of outrageous decisions, the term acquired a degree of infamy through its continuing and escalating wholesale application in assigning to men that were made the victims of paternity fraud obligations related to paternity for children they did not father and whom those "fathers" may not even ever have seen. (See The Virtual Child)
fempropFeminist propaganda: political propaganda promulgated chiefly to promote the feminist ideology (men bad - women good) in politics, the judiciary, social research, academe, the bureaucracy, the education system, the media, publishing, literature, drama, music, art, etc. (for additional information, refer to Collecting Information for Propaganda is not Research)
fetishism1 : belief in magical fetishes
2 : extravagant irrational devotion
3 : the pathological displacement of erotic interest and satisfaction to a fetish
gayOnce upon a time, a mere 30 years ago, it still meant without doubt: lively; bright; sportive, merry; wanton, dissipated, a loose life; showy, spotted.   Today it is almost exclusively used as an adjective by which society at large labels all HOMOSEXUAL sex and behaviour.  Once upon a time the word queer was used instead to label such behaviour, but that is no longer politically correct and not even lawful.  The use of the word queer is now reserved exclusively for use by members of the homosexual sector of the population (estimated to be at 1.5 to 3 percent of the population).
genderPrimarily a subclass within a grammatical class of terms in a language; however, of great importance in the politics of sex as a euphemism for sexual orientation, intended to obscure and to obfuscate the biological and cultural classification of humans into two sexes – male and female – so as to promote the view that the bipolarity of sexual concepts that grew out of biological reality is a social construct and not a consequence of human evolution.
gender activismA movement for social reform that promotes the legalization of any imaginable sexual orientation, with the main objective being to construct social acceptability of a wide range of sexual orientations and to effect the abrogation of the heterosexual family as the social norm for humanity.
gender biasA system of systematic discrimination against and oppression of women – so the gender-feminists assert.  Of course, if that assertion is accepted as being true, then men cannot ever claim to be discriminated against, as men do the oppressing of women.  Therefore, according to the reasoning of gender-feminists, it follows that the shorter life-spans of men (on average 5 years less than women's throughout the world) are not the sum-total of the consequences of discrimination against men but either a figment of men's imagination or a consequence of men's inferior biological design.
   However, such illogical assertions are motivated by feminist gender bias against men.
Note: There is a great need  to promote IMD (International Men's Day) to raise awareness, largely even amongst men, about systemic discrimination against men: A YouTube video about discrimination against men (off-site)
gendercideThe deliberate extermination or reduction in number of some or all individuals of one sex because of their sex
genderedReflecting the attitudes, experiences and views of one sex more than the other
gender equityAlso called gender equality or gender balance, a massive program of social re-engineering, by which affirmative-action hiring, wage equality, lowering of hiring standards, pro-female judicial bias and legislation are used to eradicate "gender" differences that radical feminists (a.k.a. redfems) assert have plagued women throughout the ages.  Any discriminatory consequences to boys and men are lightly dismissed through assertions that today's men have to pay for the sins of their fathers.  So it is that feminist insist that they can demand that women will be permitted to perform traditionally male jobs if they so desire, but that only men are compelled to perform them as a matter of course.  Thereby men are being marginalized and still suffer the traditional ratio of job injuries and fatalities of 19 men for ever woman.  In consequence men and women are now not more equal, but the gap in life expectancy between the sexes is widening to six year and more, while women receive higher wages for jobs of lesser risk.

See also: The 1989 Montreal Massacre in the context of men’s sacrifices, 2008 12 07, by Professor Jeffrey Asher.

gender-feminismShort for "Sex/Gender Feminism," according to Christina Hoff Sommers, it is the doctrine that women are "in thrall to 'a system of male dominance' variously referred to as 'heteropatriarchy' or the sex/gender system." (More at "Feminist Terms Defined": Gender-Feminism)
gender lensDesignates social advocacy research aiming at the inequitable and unashamed promotion of special rights and privileges for women over those of all other sectors of the population.  Such advocacy research is widely done and promoted by radical feminists (a.k.a. redfems) in government departments throughout the world, especially in the developed nations. For a typical example consider New Zealand's Ministry of Women's Affairs:

Gender analysis enables gender to be integrated into every area of the policy process. It is most effective when applied at the beginning of the policy process but is also useful to review policies and programmes. [Original emphasis, Source: Our Work]

The NZ Women's ministry makes no bones about its discriminatory intentions:

From: The Framework [for gender analysis]

  • provides the gender lens through which to view an initiative [my emphasis —WHS]
  • is complementary to other policy guides, and therefore does not address all issues to be considered in the formulation of policy advice or service delivery [meaning that it will preferentially and exclusively address women's needs —WHS]
  • is aimed at chief executives, policy managers and analysts, researchers, product and service designers and implementers to enhance their understanding of gender analysis, its benefits and how to undertake it
  • reflects the Ministry of Women's Affairs' knowledge and experience gained over the past 10 years
  • is the first attempt in New Zealand to describe the principles and practice of gender analysis. As gender analysis becomes more widely practised the Ministry will update these guidelines based on that experience and publish case studies which document its use.
gender violenceThe assertion by gender-feminists – contrary to all common sense and available evidence – that violence is endemic in intimate relationships between the sexes, that all such violence is being initiated by men as part of the systematic oppression of women, and that in the allegedly rare occasions when women initiate or perpetrate violence against men such violence is invariably motivated by self-defence on the part of women
gender warFormerly called the battle of the sexes, when it was not so much a battle as it was all-pervasive and systematic griping by feminists against alleged discrimination by men against women.  It has, however, increasingly become known as the gender war and ever since then escalated into an all-out program of psychological and economic warfare against men and boys, with deadly consequences.  Suicide rates steadily escalated, especially for men and boys, ever since feminism became a controlling political force.
heterophobeAn individual who is characterized through being obsessed by heterophobia
heterophobiaIrrational fear of, aversion to, or discrimination against heterosexuality or heterosexuals — heterophobic adj.
heterosexism1: prejudice or discrimination based based on pro-homosexual sexism : discrimination against heterosexuals 2: behaviour, conditions, or attitudes that deny the right to social and psychological differences based on biological characteristics of the sexes and deny the desirability of the complementarity of the sexes
heterosexualSexually oriented toward or of relating to performing sexual acts with a person of the opposite sex for purposes of sexual gratification and procreation; a heterosexual individual
heterosexualismAn ideology that holds that heterosexuality is the only viable and valid expression of human sexuality
heterosexualistSomeone who promotes or advocates heterosexualism
heterosexualityThe highest form in the evolution of natural methods for procreation that requires sexual acts between individuals of the male and female sex in a species; sexual attraction directed toward a person of the opposite sex; erotic acts or sexual gratification with a person of the opposite sex
homophobeAn individual who is characterized by homophobia
homophobiaIrrational fear of, aversion to, or discrimination against homosexuality or homosexuals — homophobic adj.
homosexualBeing sexually attracted toward or of relating to performing sexual acts with a person of the same sex for purposes of sexual gratification and avoidance of procreation; a homosexual person
homosexualismAn ideology that holds that homosexuality is a permissible and desirable portion of a wide range of different types and equally valid expressions of human sexuality; a belief system that advances special rights for homosexuals, such as the right to perform homosexual acts in public view 
homosexualistSomeone who promotes or advocates homosexualism
homosexualitySexual attraction directed toward a person of the same sex; erotic acts or sexual gratification with a person of the same sex
lesbianismFemale homosexuality
masturbateTo practice masturbation
masturbationErotic stimulation of one's own genitals to achieve orgasm
masturbatorOne who masturbates
misandryHatred of men – something that feminists will never under any circumstances admit to being engaged in or even dream of being possible
misogynyHatred of women – something that feminists will accuse anyone of promoting if they should in any way be critical of even the slightest portion of the feminist program of re-engineering society to bring about the planned destruction of our families
paternity fraud Illegally obtained child-support benefits resulting from an allegation by a woman in collaboration with the legal system, supported by the courts and given the force of law through a court order, whereby a given man (often without him having been legally informed of the alleged paternity) is assigned the duties and responsibilities that come with paternity, even though he can prove through DNA paternity tests that he is not the natural father of the child or children he is alleged to have fathered.
patriarchOne who governs his family by paternal right
patriarchyA community of related families under the authority of a patriarch

Note: Karl Marx and Friedrich Engels, the authors of the Communist Manifesto (1848/49), applied the term to mean societies or civilizations comprised of traditional nuclear families, families in which fathers are the breadwinners and figurative heads.  They held that a new and better socialist society cannot be constructed unless the concept of the traditional nuclear family is deconstructed and traditional families are abrogated
   Marx and Engels promoted that the productivity of all nations can be almost doubled if women are freed from the bonds of their families and the chores of child raising, with women then being free to be incorporated into the work force.  They called for the sexual needs of men and women to be satisfied through the concept of "free love" (today it is called sexual freedom), outside of the bounds of traditional marriage or at most in marriages that can be dissolved at will without assigning fault to one or the other partner.   Thereby they also thought that the social stigma of illegitimate children would fall by the way-side (every child a wanted child).  Children were to be raised in state-funded and -operated nurseries and daycare facilities.
   Many factions of the women's liberation movement wholeheartedly adopted Marx's and Engels' ideology, most of all radical feminism (a.k.a. Marxist-, Leninist-, or socialist-feminism), into which, beginning in the 1940s, communism increasingly transformed itself.  Radical feminism has since become the dominant political force in all developing and developed nations, and at the UN.

If the term "radical feminism" (a.k.a. Marxist- or socialist-feminism) is somewhat new to you, you need to expand your knowledge.  After all, radical feminism, the currently controlling faction of feminism, governs just about everything that is happening in your life.  See,

Carey Roberts column

Carey Roberts is an analyst and commentator on political correctness. His best-known work was an exposé on Marxism and radical feminism.

Carey Roberts' best-known work, his exposé on Marxism and radical feminism, is not necessarily easy to find, but this link will help with that. (Some of the URLs for the article series appear to keep changing.  For that reason the identified link leads to an Internet search for the series.  The first or second link in the return list will most likely lead you to the series.)

The eradication of the patriarchy so exceedingly dreaded by radical feminism must of necessity target primarily men.  See for example,

From the website of the The Soviet Story:

The film tells the story of the Soviet regime and how the Soviet Union helped Nazi Germany instigate the Holocaust.

“The Soviet Story” is a story of an Allied power which helped the Nazis to fight Jews and which slaughtered its own people on an industrial scale. Assisted by the West, this power triumphed on May 9th, 1945. Its crimes were made taboo, and the complete story of Europe’s most murderous regime has never been told. Until now…

DVDs of the documentary can be purchased through Amazon.com, but the documentary is also accessible free-of-charge on-line.

See a review of the documentary on the soviet holocaust or democide, the definition of democide being the extermination of a people by its government. It is estimated that during the height of the Stalinist purges, men comprised 98 percent of the 8-million people that were being exterminated in just two years, 1937 and 1938.

pederastOne who practices pederasty
pederastyThe practice to engage in anal sex with males, esp. with boys
pedophiliaThe sexual molestation by adults of children or sexual intercourse by adults with children
pedophileAn adult who engages in pedophilia
pro-abortionThe promotion of the legal right to kill children conceived but not yet born and of the acts required to do the killing
pro-choiceA cowardly, politically-correct euphemism for pro-abortion, euthanasia that promotes the killing of children conceived but not yet born; the logically-correct term is pro-death, the antonym of pro-life
pro-death Euthanasia that targets all children conceived but not yet born
pro-lifeAnti-abortionism, opposition to the promotion of the legal right to kill children conceived but not yet born and to the acts required to do the killing
rapeSexual intercourse with an individual without his or her consent — see also STATUTORY RAPE

Note: Allegations of rape and and physical abuse are a primary weapon in the feminist arsenal.  In a study done by the FBI it was found that about 30 percent of men serving time for rape with aggravated assault could not possibly have committed the crime of which they had been convicted, because their DNA didn't match that of the semen found on their alleged victims.
   Because such allegations are so extremely effective in bringing a man down, they acquired the nickname "the silver bullet."
sadomasochismThe derivation of pleasure from the infliction of physical or mental pain either on others or on oneself
sexThe distinction between male and female; the characteristics by which humans, animal or plants are male or female; gender: the female sex, women generally, usually with the definite article
sex objectOne who is regarded exclusively as an object of sexual interest
sexologistOne who studies sex or the interactions of the sexes and sexual practices
sexualPertaining to sex; distinguished by or founded on the sex
sexual assault/harassmentUninvited and unwelcome conduct directed at anyone because of his or her sex

Note: False allegations of sexual harassment are one of the most potent weapons in the feminist arsenal used in the gender war.  It is a weapon that men neither use nor hardly ever can avail themselves of.
   The feminist dominated courts hold that women don't rape, kill, molest, abuse or harass.   Women are considered to be innocent under all and any circumstances.
   The insidious nature of allegations of sexual harassment is that no absolute and objective standards exist by which it can be determined whether sexual harassment occurred, or by which one can measure its degree of severity.
   Usually a woman's allegations of sexual harassment, even if uncorroborated by any evidence or witnesses, are taken at face value, unless the accused man can prove that he was elsewhere and not in the presence of the accusing woman at the time he was to have been engaged in harassing her.  Even that is often ruled out as admissible evidence and the accuser's word made superior to that of any witnesses a man may be able to produce.
   Furthermore, what may be a man's nightingale can easily be perceived, or claimed to be, the woman's owl or nightmare.  It matters little whether the perceived harassment is a figment of her imagination or a product of her maliciousness.
   What aggravates the aspects of sexual harassment allegations is that in many localities it is a criminal offence to sexually harass.  In Canada is has been assigned to the same criminal category as rape, to the category of sexual assault.

Therefore "rape statistics" in Canada now encompass allegations of crimes and criminal convictions for offences that range from uncorroborated charges of leering at a woman in a public swimming pool to rape with aggravated assault and murder.  That had a fine effect.  It raised statistics for incidents of "rape" to dizzying heights.  That is all the more so because feminists in non-government organization and in government make no distinction between reports of rape or sexual assault (allegations of crimes - innocent until proven guilty) and rape or sexual assault convictions.  Feminist propagandists make no distinction between allegations (as reported to police - plus estimated numbers of allegations in the order of the number equal to allegations reported to police) and convictions for criminal offences of a sexual nature against women.  It may come as a surprise to some that in almost 100 percent of all allegations of sexual offences against women the offenders are being found to be not guilty. The alleged offenders are being found guilty and sentenced accordingly in only about 1.9 percent of allegations in the U.S. and in about 6.9 percent of allegations in Canada. (More at the blog of Fathers for Life.)
   The difference in the conviction rates in the U.S. and in Canada is due to the greater extent to which the Canadian system of justice and classification of sexual offences is being influenced and controlled by feminist ideologists, to such a degree that U.S. social crtics already many years ago used Canadian jurisprudence as an example of feminist jurisprudence. (See Feminist Jurisprudence: Equal Rights or Neo-Paternalism, by Michael Weiss and Cathy Young; Cato Policy Analysis No. 256, June 19, 1996)

sexualityState or quality of being sexual
sexualizeTo distinguish as sexed, to raise sexual awareness, to make sexual
sexual orientationAccording to the traditional perspective, one of two possible self-images an individual may have of himself (normally correlating to one's own sex); and according to more liberal views, one of a multitude of sexual preferences one may adopt during his life time, preferences that are not the outcome of one's biological constraints but rather of one's preference with respect to how to obtain sexual excitation and gratification (e. g.: fetishism, homosexuality, pedophilia, sodomy, coprophiliapederasty, sadomasochism, transsexualism, etc.); syn. GENDER
sodomiteOne who practices sodomy — sodomitic or sodomitical adj.
sodomyUnnatural non-coital (anal, oral or manual) copulation with a member of the same or opposite sex or with an animal
statutory rapeSexual intercourse with a person who is unable to give meaningful consent — see also RAPE

Note: Pederasty and other sodomitic sexual acts by adults with children are criminal acts.  In fact, they are statutory rape, because children are unable to give meaningful consent.  For that reason some homosexualists are engaged in bringing about legislation that lowers the age of sexual consent for children. In some countries the age of sexual consent for children engaged in homosexual acts has been lowered already to the age of 12.  Apparently it is thought that if laws lowering the age of sexual consent are enacted, that the maturity of children that enables them to give meaningful consent is thereby miraculously brought about. One thing is certain, though, the criminalization of sexual acts with children is thereby much reduced and perhaps eventually completely eliminated by declaring children of all ages sufficiently mature to engage in anything the lobbyists want them to engage in.
   Homosexual activists generally deny that that is their intention.   However, it is very rare that any of their members object to what is being done with respect to lowering the age of consent for children, and those who do object are quickly silenced by various means.
   What remains to be seen is any other logical explanation for lowering the age of consent for children who are being engaged in homosexual acts.  It is very puzzling that the play by Eve Ensler, "The Vagina Monologues," the latest major "cultural export" from the US, contains a very graphic glorification of statutory rape of a 12-year-old girl by a lesbian woman (in some later versions of the "play" the statutory rape scene and dialogue had been omitted).   What is even more curious is that many celebrities who are avowed opponents of child-sexual-abuse and even advertise their 'survivor' status, highly praised Eve Ensler's play.   (E. g.: Oprah Winfrey, who took "part in a Valentine's Day benefit performance of Eve Ensler's off-Broadway hit The Vagina Monologues to raise awareness of violence against women. )  So, what are we to make of that?  Is statutory rape by women not a criminal act in the eyes of women who are 'survivors' of child sexual abuse?  Is it not violence by women?   Apparently not in the eyes of some who uphold two standards of morals and laws governing them, one for men and one for women.

transsexualGender identity confusion caused by the psychological urge to belong to the opposite sex, often carried to the extreme of undergoing surgical alteration and removal of sex organs, so as to be able to perfectly and completely mimic the opposite sex; an individual who craves to be of the opposite sex. Gender activists don't like to use the term transsexual (or any word with the root 'sex').  They therefore substitute the word that they wish to become the politically-correct form, "transgendered.")
transsexualismAn ideology that holds that transsexuality is a permissible and desirable portion of a wide range of different types and equally valid expressions of human sexuality; a belief system that advocates special rights for transsexuals, to the extent that they demand that sex re-assignment surgery shall be publicly funded so as to permit transsexuals to submerge themselves totally and physically in their psychological fixation
transsexualistSomeone who promotes or advocates transsexualism
transsexualitySexual attraction directed toward playing or mimicking the role of a person of the opposite sex; erotic acts for the purpose of gaining sexual excitement or gratification while pretending to be a person of the opposite sex

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