The following is from the newsletter Common Sense & Domestic Violence, 1998 01 30
Allegations of family violence are the weapon-of-choice in divorce strategies. Lawyers, and paralegals in women's shelters, call them "The Silver Bullet". False abuse allegations work effectively in removing men from their families. The impact that the removal of fathers has on our children is horrific. The following lists some of the consequences of the removal of fathers from the lives of their children.
The Impact on our Children
Inter-spousal violence perpetrated by men is only a small aspect of family violence. False abuse allegations are only a small tile in the mosaic of vilifying the men in our society. They serve well in successful attempts to remove fathers from the lives of our children. Here are some statistics resulting from that which show more of the whole picture.
- 79.6% of custodial mothers receive a support award
- 29.9% of custodial fathers receive a support award.
- 46.9% of non-custodial mothers totally default on support.
- 26.9% of non-custodial fathers totally default on support.
- 20.0% of non-custodial mothers pay support at some level
- 61.0% of non-custodial fathers pay support at some level
- 66.2% of single custodial mothers work less than full time.
- 10.2% of single custodial fathers work less than full time.
- 7.0% of single custodial mothers work more than 44 hours weekly.
- 24.5% of single custodial fathers work more that 44 hours weekly.
- 46.2% of single custodial mothers receive public assistance.
- 20.8% of single custodial fathers receive public assistance.
- 40% of mothers reported that they had interfered with the fathers visitation to punish their ex-spouse.
- 50% of mothers see no value in the fathers continued contact with his children.
- 90.2% of fathers with joint custody pay the support due.
- 79.1% of fathers with visitation privileges pay the support due.
- 44.5% of fathers with no visitation pay the support due.
- 37.9% of fathers are denied any visitation.
- 66% of all support not paid by non-custodial fathers is due to the inability to pay.
- 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes.
- 85% of all children that exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes.
- 80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes.
- 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes.
- 70% of juveniles in state operated institutions come from fatherless homes
- 85% of all youths sitting in prisons grew up in a fatherless home.
- Nearly 2 of every 5 children in America do not live with their fathers.
- 11,268,000 total custodial mothers
- 2,907,000 total custodial fathers
What does this mean? Children from fatherless homes are:
(The calculation of the relative risks shown in the preceding list is based on 27% of children being in the care of single mothers.)
and compared to children who are in the care of two biological, married parents children who are in the care of single mothers are:
- 33 times more likely to be seriously abused (so that they will require medical attention), and
Quoted from the conclusion of the discussion paper:
Growing up with a single parent harms children for three
primary reasons: A disrupted family usually has fewer financial
resources to devote to children's upbringing and education, less
time and energy to nurture and supervise children, and reduced
access to community resources that can supplement and support
parents' efforts. Fortunately, none of these factors are beyond
the control of parents and society. Thus, to the extent that
parents and government can address these risk factors, the
effect of father absence on children's wellbeing could be
Note by Fathers for Life: Although the discussion paper presents
a fairly good analysis of the consequences of father absence, the
primary solution seen by Sara McLanahan for addressing the
consequences of father absence is to bring about more and stronger
child support enforcement. That is in addition to ensuring
more secure financial circumstances (out of tax revenues) for
Not once does the discussion paper mention, let alone critique, the
deplorable drive to systematically destroy the traditional nuclear
family and to eliminate the presence of fathers in children's lives.