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The on-going Destruction of Our Society

Analogy? -- Participants -- Reality!

Walter H. Schneider

Based on a story from from the Edmonton Sun that tells about one small skirmish in our war of social destruction, I have tried to put the details of the circumstances into perspective:

Theater of War: The Family Home

Outcome of Action: One Family Destroyed

Participants in the "Action":

Warring Parties: The Parents 

UN "Peace Action Force": The Police

Prisoner-of-War Camp: (Normally) Jails and Detainment                                  Centres - in this case no prisoners were taken.  There were only casualties.    

Civilians: The Children 

Displaced Persons (DPs): The Children 

Concentration Camp for DPs: The Foster Home  

Casualty Figures:  

Combat Forces: 1 Dead Parent, 1 Wounded Parent

Civilians: 1 Dead Child,  5 Displaced Children

There are other participants that are all part of the "action", just as in any other war. Some of these were involved already and will remain involved. Others will come into play later.

"Supporting" Cast:

Minister of Propaganda and Public Education: Secretary of State Status of Women;  Minister of Women's Issues; Special Interest Groups 

Education System: Education System  

The Media: The Press, Radio and TV

Bureaucracy: Justice; Law Enforcement; Corrections Services; Family and Social Services; Child Protective Services; Education; Maintenance Enforcement; Children's Aid Societies; Battered Women's Shelter; Salvation Army, etc.

UN Assembly Legislative Assemblies

Combat Dressing Centre: Hospital Emergency Room 

The International Criminal Court: Criminal and Divorce Courts

Foreign Aid: Social Assistance

Service Providers: Service Industry (for hospitals, jails, prisons, courts, orphanages, therapists, foster homes, etc. ) Mediation, Counselling, Day Care Centres, Lawyers, Judges, Police Staff, Foster Care Providers, Private Maintenance Enforcement Agencies, etc.

Industry and Commerce: The more fighting there is,  the more money can be made.  The more destruction there is, the more families will break apart, the more separate households will be created, the more goods can be sold by and to the service providers and families.

The Government: Tax Revenue Organizations, collecting taxes to garner the funding for the war; Social Services, establishing and applying the "Rules of War"

All Families: All Families, supplying: soldiers for the War, funds to keep it going, Some Families make a living from family violence

Peace in the family is "not in the best interest of the economy."

War in the family is "not in the best interest of any family member." The choice is ours!

Battle Report from the Front:

(There are no copy-right restrictions on any of the above -- WHS < >)

The Edmonton Sun Tuesday, March 24, 1998

(The Edmonton Sun can be accessed at http://www.canoe.ca/EdmontonSun/home.html)


Anger on the reserve

TSUU T'INA RESERVE -- Tribal leaders appealed for calm last night amid simmering anger after a woman and her son were shot dead by an RCMP officer on this reserve southwest of Calgary. "Emotions are running high. We hope that everyone will remain calm," said band spokesman Peter Manywounds.

Connie Jacobs, 33, and her nine-year-old son, Ty, died during a standoff with RCMP Sunday night.

The Edmonton Sun Tuesday, March 24, 1998

Anger on the reserve

Leaders appeal for calm after RCMP officer kills mom and son during standoff

Sun Media

TSUU T'INA RESERVE -- Tribal leaders appealed for calm last night amid simmering anger after a woman and her son were shot dead by an RCMP officer on this reserve southwest of Calgary.

"Emotions are running high. We hope that everyone will remain calm," said band spokesman Peter Manywounds.

Connie Jacobs, 33, and her nine-year-old son, Ty, died during a standoff with RCMP Sunday night.


      An unidentified
      officer uses a
      knife to retrieve
      pellets fired by
      RCMP Const.
      Dave Voller.
        -Carlos Amat, SUN

Jacobs reportedly fired first - opening up on Const. Dave Voller who was trying to enforce an order to seize her six children.  Voller returned fire with a shotgun.  Jacobs and her son were both killed. The shotgun was loaded with SSG shells, a heavy buckshot load of 12 pellets that spread across a wide area.

The RCMP said Voller was acting in self-defence.  But many people on the reserve sharply criticized the police action - saying there didn't have to be bloodshed.

"This could have been resolved," said Beatrice Onespot, a cousin of Connie Jacobs.

"It's useless to go in there with a bunch of guns against a woman and a bunch of little ones," she said.

"(Ty) was friendly and for him to get killed by a bunch of adults that should've used their brains instead of their guns - it's a sad situation."

Earlier Sunday, Jacobs' husband Hardy was taken from the home to hospital with a deep gash above his eye, at 3 p.m. following a domestic dispute.

RCMP say a Tsuu T'ina Family and Social Services worker and tribal police officer Tammy Dodginghorse arrived at Jacobs' home on the reserve at 6 p.m. to seize the children. The pair called Okotoks RCMP for backup - normal procedure - when Jacobs refused to release the children.

Voller arrived on the scene around 7:30 p.m. and was shot at by Jacobs.  He returned fire with a RCMP-issue shotgun, killing the pair.

Police discovered the bodies just outside the house after a four-hour standoff that followed the shooting.

"You're faced with a situation that you have milliseconds to make a life-or-death decision," said RCMP Cpl. Mike O'Rielly, adding he is not aware of another time an Okotoks RCMP officer has used lethal force.

Jacobs was warned three times to drop her rifle, police said.  Voller fired from a range of 10 to 15 metres and he couldn't see the boy because of darkness and heavy snow, said O'Rielly.

The RCMP's major crime units from Edmonton and Calgary will conduct an internal inquiry. The province and the Tsuu T'ina tribal administration are also holding inquiries.


The Edmonton Sun Tuesday, March 24, 1998


3 p.m. Sunday: Connie Jacobs' husband Hardy is taken from the home to hospital following a domestic dispute, suffering from a deep gash above his eye.

6 p.m.: A Tsuu T'ina Family and Social Services worker and tribal police officer Tammy Dodginghorse arrive at Jacobs' home to apprehend six children. The pair call Okotoks RCMP for backup when Jacobs refuses to release the children - normal procedure for the tribal police.

7:30 p.m.: RCMP Const. Dave Voller arrives at the house and is shot at by Jacobs. He returns fire with an RCMP-issue shotgun loaded with heavy buckshot, starting a standoff outside the home as police try unsuccessfully to contact Jacobs.

11:10 p.m.: Officers with the RCMP Emergency Response Team move in on the house and discover the bodies of Connie and nine-year-old son Ty outside. The five remaining children are found safe and taken to a foster home they had been in before.


The Edmonton Sun Tuesday, March 24, 1998

Friends say victim was 'good person'


TSUU T'INA RESERVE -- Connie Jacobs was a good mother and an upstanding citizen when she wasn't drinking, say friends and neighbors.

"She wasn't a woman who had too many enemies," said Beatrice Onespot, a relative. "She had a lot of friends on the reserve, she was well-educated and well-spoken."

  • Ty Jacobs, 9 -- one of the casualties

Jacobs (Ty's mother) had been married for more than a decade to her husband Hardy, said Onespot, 50.

She said violence was out of character for Jacobs. "I still can't believe that Connie pointed a gun at anyone," said Onespot.

Her son, Ty, was in Grade 3 at the Chula school on the reserve. "He was a happy little boy," she said. Jacobs has a teenaged daughter. Two of the children in the home Sunday night were the daughter's children, said Onespot.

Hardy was in seclusion last night and is taking the deaths hard, said a relative who didn't want to be named.

He wasn't at the home at the time of the shooting because he had been taken to hospital after being involved in a dispute with Connie earlier Sunday.

The Jacobs lived on welfare in a rundown house on the reserve, said Onespot. They had no phone.

Connie Jacobs' friend Vera Starlight sobbed when she learned of the shooting. "This is really awful, it just hurts me so much," Starlight said.

Drinking and fighting were common for the couple, she said. "When she wasn't drinking she was the nicest person. She's a good mother."

Added one woman who didn't want her name used: "She was a mother, she was a good person. Even if she did shoot a couple of rounds they should've left her alone."

There were unconfirmed reports that Jacobs was two months pregnant.


Copyright 1998, Canoe Limited Partnership.

All rights reserved. 

A final note:  The native population in Canada comprises a disproportionate number of the inmates in prison and the case load of social services agencies.  That is of great concern to Native Aid societies, and it should be, because Canadian Natives are the one group in our society that suffers the most devastation on account of the social engineering that is being undertaken here in efforts to establish a multicultural society which will have an ambivalent nature and no more national identity.  However, Canadian government and social service agencies are hard at work to extrapolate the social aberrations in the Native society to all of Canadians.  That serves two purposes, intentionally or not.  It takes attention away from the Native population and the harm that is coming to it.  At the same time, the averaging of the "casualty" figures over all of the Canadian population provides justification for a never-ending and increasingly onerous stream of legislative changes that paint all Canadian men in a bad light.

The information collected by Statistics Canada does provide the capability to identify and address social ills where they happen.  Unfortunately, StatCan doesn't publish such information.  It is not politically correct to do so.  It is implied by some of the powers that if that were done it would discriminate against ethnic minorities.  It's an asinine way of looking at our social problems, but that's the philosophy has become firmly entrenched over the last thirty years or so.  Will that direction change?  No doubt, just as surely that we can safely say that it will rain after a long drought, except that we know no more when it will rain when we are in the middle of a drought than we know when our social engineers will apply common sense again in their ostensible efforts to build a better society.  In the mean-time we all suffer, either directly through the social devastation that is happening or by funding remedial measures that ineffectually attempt to place Band Aids where they are needed most.  It makes some people feel good, but it doesn't provide much help to anyone.

--Walter H. Schneider

See also:

  • DVStats.org a search engine, aggregating research that examines the impact and extent of domestic violence upon male victims. (Off-site)

    This search facility equates domestic violence to intimate partner violence between men and women in relationships.  It does not provide information on violence between homosexuals, siblings or violence against family members other than heterosexual partners and spouses, such as infanticide, child abuse or violence against elderly in families.
  • Video on violent women

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