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Rage follows lad to his grave

October 11, 1998

Rage follows lad to his grave 
Toronto Sun

Suffer the little children to come unto me, and forbid them
not; for such is the kingdom of God ... Mark 10:14.

               It was the signs of his suffering that made what followed inevitable. How could you gaze for even a moment inside little Randal Dooley's casket and not rage at the evil he had suffered? For there he lay before yesterday's funeral, that seven-year-old baby so achingly still on the white satin, his tiny hands placed around a spray of white carnations, his dark tuxedo so loose on his frail bones, and despite whatever makeup they applied, his bruises still so evident over his closed eyes.
   And as mourners stopped short and the sobs began at the sight of this helpless, beaten child finally at peace beside a stuffed teddy bear and a little Tigger, grief turned to anger.
   Where was his father when this poor child was being beaten? Where, for God's sake, was his big, strong dad?
   His wife, Marcia Dooley, the boy's stepmother, is charged with second-degree murder. When asked about further charges, Toronto Police say only their investigation is continuing.
   Wherever Edward Dooley had been during his son's short, tragic life, he was there to bid him farewell in death. He arrived at St. Margaret In The Pines Anglican Church, leaning heavily on the arms of two men. He wore sunglasses as dark as his black suit, and seemed oblivious to the angry stares and the murmurs that followed him down the aisle as he was led to his seat in the front wooden pew. Earlier this week, he was rushed to hospital after, friends say, he took an overdose of pills. Now he was out, if only for the day, to attend his son's funeral, his bowed   head swaying oddly from side to side.
   He hardly looked up when his cousin, Violet McFarlane, told the hundreds who filled the pews and stood in the aisles and overflowed to the parking lot outside, that "we have failed" little Randal.
   "The next time, we must have our eyes open for these little ones," she told them. "They have no protection, but us to take care of them."
   It was only when mourners began wailing in despair at a hymn that spoke of "My father's arms around me. My child, we are going home," that Dooley buried his head.
   Where were those father's arms? For weeks, that question has been simmering as this city has mourned this little boy.
   His tall, strong father lived in the same home as his battered son. He had sent for Randal and his brother from Jamaica, telling their mom, Racquel Burth, that he could give them a better life here with his new wife.
   Just seven months later, Randal lies in a donated casket, and the father entrusted with his care never once dares to glance across the aisle at the boy's weeping mother.
   Randal had always dreamed of his mom and dad reuniting, his cousin said in his eulogy. That little child even promised his mom that he would send for her one day. And so he had, but only to lay him to rest.
   "Every form of abuse must come to an end," Rev. L.D. Walters exhorted the mourners who replied with applause and a resounding, "Yes."
   So when the crowd emerged from the emotional service and spotted the boy's father, their questions finally turned to rage. "That s.o.b.," screamed one woman with tears streaming down her cheeks. "That boy was just a baby."
   In the ensuing melee, there were rumours of a gunshot and chilling hopes that some had "gotten some licks in." Northel Small watched the mob of anger pounding on the father's car as it tried to leave the funeral. "This is not the right way," she said sadly. "But there's so much anger in people."
   At Pine Hills Cemetery, Randal's father did not appear for the burial. His mother collapsed at the gravesite and had to be whisked away. And so hundreds of strangers -- most from the Jamaican-Canadian community-- helped bury that little boy yesterday. He'd been so alone in life, it seems. In death, they would not abandon him.
   They lingered long by his side as the fall sun grew colder, repeating those endless questions that have yet to be answered. Which must be answered.
   Of a father who failed to protect his child. Of a community and a system that let him down. The Children's Aid Society had been alerted by Randal's school last year. If there was not enough evidence to lay charges, then why, at least, didn't the CAS check back on Randal?
   "This should never have happened," Pauline Spence said furiously, echoing so many others. "How did he fall through the cracks? This child should be out playing with his buddies and instead he's dead."
   Instead, he's buried in a donated plot, with a few flowers and a little box of Smarties strewn on the fresh dirt.
   And a father still too cowardly to be seen. In death, it seems, as in life.

  Michele can be reached by e-mail at mmandel@sunpub.com.
  Letters to the editor should be sent to editor@sunpub.com.

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See also: Big Sister Is Watching!

An epidemic of state-sponsored kidnapping feeds a tyrannical system hungry for revenues.  Child Protective Services and Children's Aid Societies systematically and increasingly often rob children from their parents.  Kafkaesque chicaneries that the targeted families find impossible to comply with are the tools used to keep the revenues rolling in.  Many families don't survive the ordeals that they are being subjected to by any given CPS or CAS. 

Subject:      Hate Crimes against Men Must End!
    Date:      Sun, 11 Oct 1998 13:27:39 -0400
   From:      Ted Greenfield <ncpd@rogers.wave.ca>
     To:       mmandel@sunpub.com
     CC:       "Peter Meier" <pmeier@interlinks.net>, "DaveyFamily" <rbdavey@interlinks.net>, JudyLongfied <LongfJ@parl.gc.ca>, DanMcTeague <McTeaD@parl.gc.ca>, ChristineStewart <StewaC@parl.gc.ca>, IvanGrose <GroseI@parl.gc.ca>, AlexShepherd <ShephA@parl.gc.ca>, "Greg Oliver, Online Editor" <goliver@canoe.ca>

Dear Ms. Mandel,

Hate crimes against men must end!

Your article below, in my opinion, fuels hatred against men.

The step-mother, (allegedly) repeatedly abused, then (allegedly)  murdered the little 7 year old boy and you call the father a coward! What do you call her, an alleged murder, a victim?

Another woman, this past week, coached and counseled her daughter into a state of paranoia, that the child's false allegations had a man arrested and his name splashed across the Greater Toronto Region, for the crime of being "scary". What do you call that mother, a hero?

All men and fathers in North America walk on eggshells afraid to even look at women or children, the "wrong way". Reality is that false allegations are excepted for full value and therefore men are first guilty; then in too many cases found to be innocent after being arrested and their names and reputations soiled.

As well, your article below offers scant attention to the very real and serious problem of a total lack of accountability by the Children's Aid Society (CAS). Once again this agency has been involved in the death of a child, without facing accountability or responsibility for it's actions.

The CAS was entrusted to protect the child. Why did the CAS apparently (once again) walk away from this poor little child?

Ms.Mandel, you are a special piece of work to detail the heinous crimes this woman (allegedly) inflicted on this helpless child and conclude that the father is a coward. Totally unbelievable and totally unacceptable.

Stop spreading hate against men. It does nothing to help children. Of course big "F" Feminists care nothing about children unless they can be exploited to justify hatred against men.

Sincerely yours,
Ted Greenfield
16 Nearctic Court
Whitby, ON L1N 6P7

Subject: [EPOC] Hate editorials are not acceptable
    Date: Tue, 13 Oct 1998 21:45:57 -0600
   From: George Charpentier <gcharpentier@stpaulrcssd.saskatoon.sk.ca>
 Organization: Saskatoon Catholic Schools

Dear Ms. Mandel:

Like you, I am horrified at the death of little Randal Dooley.  Like you, I wondered about his father and how this could have happened. We part company there, however.  You have taken the death of this unfortunate little boy, and used it to further the politics of your feminist bigotry and hatred of men.

Would you have been as vitriolic if the father had killed the child and the mother had apparently been negligent? Would you ever call a woman who failed to defend her child a coward?

The one thing that I am sure of is that no matter what this man would have done, you would find him guilty.  The only constant in your rhetoric is the universal guilt of all men, in all circumstances, coupled with the universal innocence and victimization of women. Children don't even enter the discussion, unless you can use them to further your feminist goals.  You could have used this opportunity to make the lives of children safer now and in the future.  You did not. How sad.  Instead, you chose to promote hatred.  Your writing is as despicable and irresponsible as anything I have ever read.

I don't know what Randal's father did or did not do.  I wasn't there. Were you?  His mother has not yet been convicted.  I don't have those facts either.  Do you?  Remember that "innocent until proven guilty" belief that doesn't apply to Canadian men anymore?  I will leave this case for the police to investigate, and the courts to sort out.  Why don't you do the same?

The way I see it, if he is guilty of something, he will likely go to jail, and perhaps he should.  If she is guilty of anything, perhaps she should too, but she probably won't.  We live in Canada, after all.

George Charpentier
#210 - 212 - 10th Street East
Saskatoon, Saskatchewan
S7N 2T6

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See also:

  • DVStats.org a search engine, aggregating research that examines the impact and extent of domestic violence upon male victims. (Off-site)

    This search facility equates domestic violence to intimate partner violence between men and women in relationships.  It does not provide information on violence between homosexuals, siblings or violence against family members other than heterosexual partners and spouses, such as infanticide, child abuse or violence against elderly in families.

    The primary purpose of the site is to shift public perceptions of such violence away from political ideology, and instead toward objectively verifiable scientific research.
  • Feminism For Male College Students A Short Guide to the Truth, by Angry Harry (Off-Site)

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