Is Canada's Health-Care System Really that Bad?
By Walter Schneider
Bruderheim, 2002 09 18
Here is something that few people, other than
those directly affected by it, pay much attention to. It relates to part of what men lose when they get kicked out of their marriages.
Although some men without any doubt cause the breakdown of their marriages, most divorced
men did not. However, what this article describes affects anyone who does not have
the chance to live out his days in the care of loving and caring relatives, anyone who is
deprived of the love and care of a family. As the deliberate destruction of our
families goes on unabatedly, that will be most of us.
We all have to go and meet our maker, but let's hope that none of us have to take a road
like this. Let's hope as well that we will have someone who will look after our
interests when we no longer have the strength and ability to do that ourselves.
My wife and I had a long talk last night with Mrs. Smith (not her real name), a friend of
ours who had just recently looked after the long-term palliative care of her daughter who
had been dying of diabetes.
During the past few years, Mrs. Smith increasingly became involved in caring for her
husband, who is afflicted with prostate cancer that has now spread to many other parts of
his body. He is presently in a local hospital, from where he is being transferred as
needed to the W.W. Cross Hospital in Edmonton for his cancer treatment and examinations.
Mrs. Smith is experiencing now that the quality of hospital care her husband receives at
the local hospital leaves much to be desired. Moreover, some of the nursing her daughter
received during her stay in the same hospital, for post-operative care, was less than
desirable, some of it was absolutely deplorable. I'll spare you the details but one.
Mrs. Smith observed that one of the nurses, as she was cleaning a long and deep surgery
wound in her daughter's stomach wall that was intended to heal slowly from the inside out,
removed the stuffing from the wound and disposed of some of it in the garbage can, while
portions of it fell to the floor. Then, as the nurse was preparing to dress the wound,
Mrs. Smith explained to the nurse why the stuffing was there and that it had to be
replaced. The nurse took with her bare hands some of the discarded stuffing back
from the garbage can, and even from the floor, and placed it back into Mrs. Smith's
daughter's wound. The nurse is still working and was apparently not even reprimanded.
As Mrs. Smith told us, some of the things that are being done to her husband are not much
better. If it weren't for her concern and her critique of some of the hospital's actions,
inaction and neglect, her husband would long be dead or at least be past the point of hope
She had to take over the administration of her husband's oral hygiene, as her husband was
so badly cared for by the nurses that he developed thrush. She had to go the local
pharmacy to buy what is needed for the treatment of that.
Moreover, her husband developed a serious internal inflammation of the scrotum. His
scrotum, testicles, penis and foreskin are swollen to grotesque proportions, with his
testicles now being close to the size of baseballs. The woman had to buy from the local
pharmacy what is needed for treatment and administer it. The hospital was not only a cause
of that condition of her husband but let it go untreated.
Mr. Smith's diapers were being changed infrequently, apparently no more often or even less
than once a day. In consequence, he developed a serious and extensive diaper rash. The
supplies for the treatment of that have to be bought by Mrs. Smith from the local pharmacy
and then have to be applied by her to treat her husband's skin condition that has left him
raw and red throughout his whole crotch, over large areas on his buttocks and over all of
the area between them.
Mrs. Smith now also changes her husband's diapers and regularly checks him over (as she
did with her daughter) for any possible bedsores, which she then points out to the nurses,
as otherwise they would go undetected and untreated unless they would, as was the case
with her daughter, become so bad that they extend down to the bone, require surgery and
will subsequently not heal anymore.
Mrs. Smith now expects that her husband, as soon as his current round of cancer treatment
is over, will be transferred to her home, for her to care for him until he passes away.
She will be required to pay the costs of nursing visits (two or three visits per week) and
has no clue how she will manage the paying or the caring, as they are not well off. She is
getting on in age, and her own health - on account of the stress she suffers from - is
seriously deteriorating, having required her to make several visits to hospital emergency
rooms for examination and treatment of a total bowel blockage.
I don't think there is any possible way she can manage to look after her husband's
medical- and nursing care on a 24-hours-a-day basis with only two or three visits a week
by a professional nurse.
Anyone thinking that men get the better deal in divorce should think again. The sacrifices
made by women such as Mrs. Smith will become more and more necessary and more and more
commonplace as our health care system continues to erode and to fall into chaos. In the
case of Mrs. Smith, there is some help by one of her daughters.
Divorced women with children will not die alone and not-cared-for by our atrociously
deteriorating hospital, we hope. However, for any divorced man in the position of Mr.
Smith, the loving care and concern such as that which Mrs. Smith and her daughter provide,
is most likely not available at all. He would possibly be left to rot to death, even
though ostensibly receiving hospital care.
Mrs. Smith asked me not to reveal her real name and not even the details of her
circumstances. She is afraid that when she becomes older, feeble and ill, the hospital
will retaliate and punish her for telling the truth about what is happening there.
However, I had to tell that much, because horrible and inhuman treatment like this by the
agents of our health care system can not be permitted to continue. Maybe, now that I told
this, I will be able to sleep tonight, but I doubt it. There is far more to tell about
this story, and that is still bothering me.
Mrs. Smith objected to the intentions of the hospital to have her look after the
palliative care for her husband, and the hospital proceeded to look after Mr. Smith's
For some of the time during the past month Mr. Smith had been hallucinating, for as long
as a week, because the medical staff at the hospital had been over-dosing him with pain
medication. When he had a clear moment, he asked his wife that the administering of
all medication required to attempt to "cure" him should be stopped, as his
condition was obviously and rapidly becoming far worse, and there was no more hope.
That was then done, and only pain medication was still being given orally.
Mr. Smith could no longer swallow. Every time he received his pain medication, he
would choke. The nurse would pull him upright to allow him to catch his breath, lay
him back down again and proceed to give him the rest of his dosage, upon which he would
promptly choke again. It was, literally, torture.
It was suggested to the nurse that she should simply hook up an intravenous drip for the
medication. She said she could not because she did not know how to hook up and use
the metering device. However, after Mr. Smith's daughter complained to the doctor
involved and to the hospital administrator, a metering devise got hooked up. At
least Mr. Smith did not go out of this life choking to death on the medication that was
intended to ease his departure. He passed away during the early morning hours of October 19, 2002.
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